Since I've starting writing posts for this blog I have had to come to terms with a character trait that I had hoped I had overcome with age. I am a Validation Seeker.
What is a Validation Seeker?
Someone who seeks validation from others to confirm/substantiate/validate their actions/words/work/being/ or anything that you want others' confirmation on.
It is not something I am proud of and I genuinely thought I had outgrown this particular trait but as I began sharing my writing and personal photos I fell right back to old ways. In this day and age social media feeds into this with such bravado that I had missed the signs until it was too late. I found myself obsessing over likes and comments and wondering what people really thought. Were they just being kind, did they even read the post?? It was doing my head in and I was starting to reconsider this entire thing.
In the midst of my pity party a very wise soul reminded me of how excited I was when Nelia approached me with this opportunity, how truly happy I was to have an outlet to start writing. I had forgotten that. I had forgotten how proud I get when I post something new. At the end of the day this makes me happy, what I post makes me happy.
How do I get past this Validation Seeker mentality? I'm not sure I do truly. What I do know is that I have to recognize it ... own it for what it is and move on. Focus on the happiness and satisfaction I get from writing and sharing, take the good with the bad. Be secure in the fact that the only opinion that really matters is my own, only then can I grow stronger.
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